Today was mixed day.
Woke up late at 7.30 and then had my self fresh and then went to fill gas in the bike.
Nice incident happenend overthere. An old man was having a trouble with his scooter to start. A young guy was helping him trying to start that old man's scooter. But it didn't work, I was watching this filling air in the tyres.
Initially I thought I should go and help that old man, but I realised I was getting late.
That young man left and old man was looking sad. Then I felt I must help him and I went to him and tried for the first time by kicking. Didn't work!!! :(
Then I shook vehicle and again kicked and bazooka it worked and scooter got started.
Wow that was a very nice feeling.
Learnt:
Sometimes irrational work makes happier than the planned one. (just like this by helping a stranger against the race of time!:)
7 Ways Successful and Fulfilled People Think Differently
1. They pursue curiosity, not passion. The most
popular life advice—follow your passion. It’s prevalent because it is
wise. The only problem, it’s easier said than done. And we spend much of
life on a frantic goose-chase. In order to follow your passion, you
need to find it. That’s where most of us need help—try make soufflé
without a recipe.
Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert gave many an “Aha moment” recently—forget
about passion, follow your curiosity: “Passion is rare; passion is a
one-night-stand. Passion is hot, it burns. Every day, you can’t access
that…but every single day in my life there’s something that I’m curious
about—follow it, it’s a clue, and it might lead you to your passion.”
Her advice comes with good company, echoing Einstein who remarked, “I
have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.” The late Steve
Jobs, in his commencement speech reflected
on his success: “Much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity
and intuition turned out to be priceless later on.”
Curiosity is the vehicle that takes us from finding, to living our passion; it builds the bridge.
2. They make friends with stress. Stress is seen as a negative, and appropriately so. Plenty of research shows that stress causes neurological damage and increases the risk of cardiovascular disease.
But what if stress is the enemy only because we perceived it to be? For 10 years, health psychologist Kelly McGonical taught on the damaging effects of stress but now seeks to undo that whole decade after coming across new research.
In a survey, 30,000 people were asked how much stress they
experienced in the last year, and whether they believed stress was
harmful for their health. Those with high degrees of stress indeed had
severely affected health, not least being a 43 percent increased risk of
dying. However, that was only the case among those who also believed
stress was harmful for their health. Those who experienced a high level
of stress, but didn’t view stress as harmful, had the lowest risk of
dying, even beyond those who indicated little stress.
Typically in stressful situations, our blood vessels constrict and
heart rate shoots-up. But the science has shown, when you change your
mind about stress, you change your body’s response to stress.
Another study comes
from Matthew Nock of Harvard University and Wendy Berry Mendes of the
University of California. Participants were given three minutes to
prepare, then deliver, a speech before critical and negative judges.
They were divided into two groups, with half of all participants having a
history of social anxiety.
One group was primed beforehand to perceive their stress as helpful,
that their pounding heart was gearing them up for action, while their
increased breathing was bringing more oxygen to the brain. As a result,
those who viewed stress as helpful were less anxious and more confident.
Physiologically, their blood vessels stayed relaxed and cardiovascular
response mirrored that of joy and courage.
Nobody is immune to stress. It’s not whether we experience stress,
it’s how we respond. Understanding stress as your body bringing in
reinforcements to defeat a challenge, rather than being defeated, isn’t
just motivational fluff, it’s a biological shift. You’ll literally live
longer, and feel better.
3. They see chain reactions.
It only takes one
falling domino to knock over the rest. Successful people rarely make
isolated decisions but join the dots between actions and the outcomes.
To take the company to the next level, Paul O’Neill, former CEO of
aluminum manufacturing giant Alcoa didn’t focus on advertising
and marketing, or research and development. He focused on safety,
reducing days lost to workplace injury by 90 percent. Within a year the
company’s profits hit a record high. When O’Neill retired, profits were
five times higher.
O’Neill says,
“I knew I had to transform Alcoa. But you can’t order people to change.
So I decided I was going to start by focusing on one thing. If I could
start disrupting the habits around one thing, it would spread throughout
the entire company.”
On the surface, they’re unrelated: profit margins and workplace
safety. But successful people have the ability to see the relationship
between the ‘unrelated.’
Our thinking is often compartmentalized. That keeps things neat,
linear and logical but builds walls we cannot see through. Successful
people always look for connections and relationships. Their thinking is
not just linear, but holistic. They don’t just study parts, but see the
whole. They’ve learned to put Humpty-Dumpty together again.
4. They ask more questions than give answers.
Our
egos paralyze us the moment we’re about to ask a question. That fear of
judgment is crippling. Rather than asking and gaining new knowledge, we
protect our image and remain mired in our lack of knowledge.
Indeed, ignorance is bliss. Successful people are ignorant of
judgment and protecting their ego. They prefer growth in asking
questions. The inability to ask inhibits our personal growth. Jim Collins and Morten Hansen note in Great by Choice, top leaders of “10x companies” (those who beat their industry indexes by ten times or more) were continually asking “What if?” as a means to improve.
The simple act of asking questions revolutionized and characterized the Toyota Motor Corporation. The famous 5-Whys developed
by Sakichi Toyoda became the benchmark of their production system. It
was a simple but highly effective strategy for getting to the root cause
of any problem and has been adopted by organizations all over the
world.
5. They contribute before gain.
Doing something for
nothing is a shock to the system. It goes against the grain of our
capitalistic culture in which there is service only with exchange. But
contribution without expectation or strings attached is a trademark of
many successful and fulfilled people.
Princess Diana is remembered for that quality, encouraging people to
“carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe
in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”
Dr. Adam Grant, organizational psychologist, studies pro-social
behaviors in business and leadership. His New York Times Bestseller, Give and Take presents
a compelling case that you don’t need to be ruthless to get ahead
Techniques such as doing “five-minute favors” for others and
reconnecting with erstwhile acquaintances can reap long-term career
rewards.
Grant explains that
pro-social behaviors have a profound effect on our depth and the
breadth of relationships, “and so you end up with a wider set of
relationships and a richer, more meaningful set of connections.” Indeed,
we all know the power and importance in networking.
There is a paradoxical boomerang effect from focusing on the success
and wellbeing of others that results in our own success and wellbeing.
Zig Ziglar said, ”You can have everything in life you want, if you will
just help other people get what they want.”
It’s motivation to sow in someone else’s field rather than just our own.
6. They schedule time for nothing.
Success is
synonymous with hard work. David Bly said it perfectly, “Striving for
success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven’t
planted.” But hard work often turns into hectic work. Taking-action
becomes 24/7.
However, some of the most accomplished people highlight a
counterintuitive habit. Their hectic schedule includes allotted times
for absolutely nothing. Of course, the times of nothing are far from
nothing. Although physically unproductive, these times allow information
they’ve been exposed to mix, mingle, and marinate, then produce new
ideas and insights.
Creativity experts and psychologists call
it the Incubation period. Creativity is often defined as the synthesis
of disparate information. Consciously, we only catch a drop of the ocean
that our mind is exposed to. Professor Timothy Wilson highlights the
power of our unconscious mind in his book, Strangers to Ourselves. Our
conscious mind processes about 40 bits of information per second,
whereas the unconscious processes eleven million bits per second.
Incubation allows for absorption and interaction between the two..
Successful people regularly schedule time for ‘nothing’
when incubation can take place. They go for a stroll, eat lunch alone,
sit in a park. It worked for Einstein: “Although I have a regular work
schedule, I take time to go for long walks on the beach so that I can
listen to what is going on inside my head. If my work isn’t going well, I
lie down in the middle of a workday and gaze at the ceiling while I
listen and visualize what goes on in my imagination.”
Someone worth learning from.
7. They value experiences over objects.
There’s very
few material possessions we can place a “priceless” tag on. But plenty
experiences for which that’s possible: the new car will be outlasted by
the work ethic you cultivated to purchase it; the new house will need
renovations, but its the talent you’ve acquired that pays for the
renovations.
What we gain materially will always come as a byproduct of who we
become intellectually, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. It’s not what
you get, but who you become.
Fulfilled and successful people place more value on the experience
than the object. Who we become creates much more value, not only for
ourselves, but for those around us and far beyond what any object is
able to.
![Photo: Every Sachin's FAN must READ.!!! ^_^
India Vs Australia [2004] match..
Brad Hogg took Sachin's wicket.
At the end of the match Hogg gave that
Ball to Sachin for his autograph.
Sachin Tendulkar put his sign with one beautiful sentence,
"IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN" B|
Till today Hogg could not take his wicket for the second time
After this incident Hogg and Tendulkar came face to face 21 times..but he could never get Master Blaster out :O
"THIS IS CONFIDENCE" "THIS IS TENDULKAR" B| 8-) B|](https://scontent-a-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xap1/v/t1.0-9/1457604_998152900241078_3094615815159514757_n.jpg?oh=47637f82f1d7af22bd92c8863b8537bb&oe=54B8E44B)
